insecurity

John Wooden on Praise and Criticism

You can't let praise or criticism get to you. It's a weakness to get caught up in either one. John Wooden

Wow, did this quote ever from the great UCLA basketball coach, John Wooden, hit me. (Be sure to see the quote I provide at the end for a great lesson.)

Praise and criticism both appeal to the same ego, but from opposite ends. The same ego I speak of is the insecure ego. Insecurity, especially when it is in a leader - is a most dangerous situation. The insecure leader acts to quench insecurity.

Addicted to Praise

Insecurity, lack of confidence, the need for constant praise... these are always serious issues. When they are in a leader - they have even more consequences. It is one thing to have legitimate needs for feedback, encouragement and affirmation. And one of the vital leadership tasks is to "encourage the heart" of those you lead. But for many leaders - it goes a lot farther.

Here is a very nice article that asks: Are You Addicted to Praise.

Worth reading and a careful reflection...

Brian K. Rice
Leadership ConneXtions International

BrianRice@lcileaders.org

 

We Love Being Right and Looking Good


Gospel identity, adoption, union in ChristWe love being right and looking good - pretending that we're better than we really are. We also love pretending that the people around us are more messed up than we are - that way we've given ourselves permission to yell at them, shame them, criticize them, or crush them.  (Pretty near exact quote from Gospel identity, published by World Harvest Mission. My handwiriting was illegible at several places, so I guessed as to what I had copied.)

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