What Successful People Do

success quote success is not just what you do it is how you inspire othersIt is not rocket science, but it is difficult.

It is not a mystery, but it is challenging.

It is within the reach of every person, but it will stretch you.

It is particular and unique for each person, but there are patterns that are evident for most people.

It may be too much to describe it as The Science of Success, but it surely is a WAY that is well mapped.

 


These are the INDICATORS seen in the Lives of Successful People.

We know what successful people do. We know the qualities of success because we see them lived out in those who are successful. While we may not be able to say these indicators are the CAUSE of success, they are certaily CORRELATED in some way with success. The more constant and substantial these indicators are evident in your life, the more likely you will be positioned for success. While no list is THE list, what you see below is a top contender for the "things you see in the lives of successful people.

1.  Has a sense of gratitude7.  Embraces Change
2.  Compliments others sincerely8.  Uses a variety of To-Do-Lists
3.  Forgives people and does not hold a grudge.9.  Keeps a journel (a tool for reflection and thinking)
4.  Gives credit away instead of "hogging it for self"10.  Sets goals and develops plans to reach goals
5.  Accepts responsibility (especially for failures)11.  A life long learner, constantly curious
6.  Reads every day12.  Wants others to succeed & celebrates when they do



What If You are Missing Some of These Qualities? Five Steps To Take!

Don't be discoruaged. Most of us are on the "short end" of these qualities. When I do a personal evaluation (in my journal of course) I do VERY well on quite a few of them, but three of them, I could definitely stand to see some improvement. How about you? What can you do? Here is my suggestion for moving ahead in your own personal development. Take these five steps, and keep taking them.

First:  Do a searching and fearless inventory on the twelve characteristics. Don't do it alone. Enlist the help of two or three people who know you best. You need to have accurate self-awareness about your starting point. You need to know what condition your condition is in. (Bonus points of affirmation to anyone who knows what song had that line in it.)

Two:  Wherever you are weak, ask this question: Why am I weak in this? Why is this missing from how I live and lead? What is going on that this quality is missing from my life? Perhaps it is not a value. Maybe it is not your personality wiring. It could be as simple as - you never knew it was good to do this. There could be other deeper, darker, more troubling reasons why something is missing. Do the necessary work to know what it is not there, for you will have to pay attention to that "causing" factor.

Three:  Gut-check time. Ask yourself - how much do I really want this quality to be a part of my life? You need strong desire to acquire what you don't have. The older we are, the longer we have gone without it, and the more likely we have patterns ingrained that are oppositional to the missing quality. You have some sustained work ahead to build new habits of the heart. So again, I ask you what you must ask yourself: How much do you want it?

Four:  Now, one quality at a time, focus on acquiring it over the next 30-60 days. You learn and grow best by having focused attention on ONE THING. Thirty days is the bottom minimum time you need to form a habit. I feel much more comfortable if you give daily attention for sixty days to form a new habit. You will want concrete, specific daily actions you will take to build the quality you want. For an example, let's use the second characteristic - compliments others. At the beginning of every day, who are the three people you will compliment. Sit down and figure out what they are doing well, where they are succeeding, what is worth appreciating about them. Figure out what you want to say to them. Then do it. Be simple, specific, sincere, short in what you say.  That is one example of developing a plan that has concrete action steps.

Five:  Finally, get feedback. It is difficult to be self-aware, especially in an area where you are under-developed. Clue someone in, enlist them to be your observer. Ask them for feedback. It is also very useful to do a little "end of the day backward look" and ask - how well did I do today? If you didn't do so well, make amends to do better tomorrow. AND... add one more day to your trial period.

 

LCI - Here to Help You Succeed

Maybe you dont' think you can do this on your own. You could use support and guidance in your pursuit of the habits of successful people. LCI is a team of leaders-consultants-coaches. If you are interested in life or leadership coaching - give us a call. To contact us by email, click here.  We will get back in touch with you and talk about what we can offer. 

Brian K. Rice
Leadership ConneXtions International

BrianRice@lcileaders.org